I wish I had come to this conversation earlier, but I've not been on the forum or even online in a number of weeks. I had a significant death in my family, and I haven't been able to get back to life.
I wanted to mention that I underwent extensive Briggs-Meyers testing in my 30s. It was for possible job placement if I wanted to do something other than art and music. It was shortly after I had to quit music because I got ill. Most of the jobs were in science and research, which really appealed to me, but it would have required schooling, and that seemed like a million miles away.
Anyway, I am an INFJ. Years later, I took the test again (not as exhaustive), but I scored the same again. I think it's such an interesting evaluation of personality types, it's almost creepy.
I also didn't know I was autistic until the last year or so. Made a lot of sense. I can't be in an environment with a lot of noise or people, i.e., restaurants, movie theaters, protests, amusement parks, even classrooms, freak me out. I've had mental breakdowns from standing in a line before.
Don't like to toot my own horn, but I know I'm pretty self-aware. I hear that from people all the time. I've also heard "I think you're psychic" before, but I don't believe in that kind of thing, yet many people think I am.
Here's what's funny/interesting about waning extrovertism. I have performed countless times as a musician. I had to play in places with tons of people (always hated that part), but my point is how stage-frightened I always was. This manifested as narcolepsy, or something a lot like it. I would fall asleep right before a show. I'd be fine during the performance and usually did a great job, but after it was all over, I would get shaky and nervous, looking back in my mind at how it all went down, and experience anxiety and paranoia about whether I had done a good enough job. That's the perfectionist problem, I guess.
I think I've grown a lot since all that. I'm not
as much of a perfectionist as I used to be.