I rarely need a library or a book store as I virtually live in a small library of my own making.
I've read a few on this subject but the best for me was 'The emotionally Absent Mother' by Jasmin Lee. I should mention that it is a difficult read because she talks about stuff that you may find you have long buried away and so the book evokes realizations and gut-wrenching flashbacks. I started off marking every page that resonated with me and then quickly realized that I resonated with everything!!! It is a painful read but I was grateful to find it.I've read a lot of heavy psychology books lately. The titles are pretty intense: Mothers Who Can't Love. Ha ha. (Susan Forward, Ph.D), When your Mother has Borderline Personality Disorder: a Guide for Adult Children, Daniel Lobel, Ph.D, and Secret Survivors, E. Sue Blume. Before that I was reading a few memoirs: Patty Schemel, Sheila E, Debbie Harry, and some survivors' memoirs (abuse, holocaust, and cults).