I hear you JD, I changed my last name when I was 15 and started signing C. Es for the same reasons. Sometimes I still sign that way. I'd like to think things are changing. Maybe they are, a little.
You probably know I'd recently thought about changing my name and have, for now, changed my mind about that, but only because I am known in LA as artist Carol Es and I don't want to screw with that career path. To me, Carol was always a girl's name and I am neither male or female, but there are males named Carroll, and even Carol. Maybe it can be androgynous? I don't know.