Artyczar
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John,
I feel bad to read this, but not because you are a "screw up" or anything of the sort. I'm sorry that this situation is bringing upon negative feeling while you work on art. That's the unfortunate part. Otherwise, let me tell you that these things happen. They've happened to me many times. You think you've met a person who will be key to helping you make strides, and then it turns out do be a major bummer. This is actually just a learning experience. However, even if alcohol caused you to make some comments that this person didn't like, it could have been anything, and maybe it wasn't even you. People are a mystery. I've said some stupid things to curators, buyers, gallery owners, etc., but these things can happen--alcohol or not. Some people easily get offended. Other times, I've thought I offended someone, but I only misunderstood and it had nothing to do with me. All you can really do here is either try to have another conversation in the future and hope it mends, or move on. It's more about your work than your personality, which isn't a screw-up, again. We all have bumps in the road. What important is to learn and grow and to find a way to put yourself (all of yourself) back into your work.
Your work is amazing. You are one of my favorite artists on this site. Try to remember that because I believe in you. I believe you will heal from this. I also think it's not the end of things for you. It could wind up being a good thing. I know that doesn't sound plausible right now, but trust me when I say I've dealt with very similar things in my 30 years of being an artist, and not just once. Many, many times. Sometimes people aren't who they seem. It could be that. It could be that you said something that persuaded them to turn the other way, but this is not in your control. We can only control so much and learn from the weird little things that come about. Please don't fret it.
I feel bad to read this, but not because you are a "screw up" or anything of the sort. I'm sorry that this situation is bringing upon negative feeling while you work on art. That's the unfortunate part. Otherwise, let me tell you that these things happen. They've happened to me many times. You think you've met a person who will be key to helping you make strides, and then it turns out do be a major bummer. This is actually just a learning experience. However, even if alcohol caused you to make some comments that this person didn't like, it could have been anything, and maybe it wasn't even you. People are a mystery. I've said some stupid things to curators, buyers, gallery owners, etc., but these things can happen--alcohol or not. Some people easily get offended. Other times, I've thought I offended someone, but I only misunderstood and it had nothing to do with me. All you can really do here is either try to have another conversation in the future and hope it mends, or move on. It's more about your work than your personality, which isn't a screw-up, again. We all have bumps in the road. What important is to learn and grow and to find a way to put yourself (all of yourself) back into your work.
Your work is amazing. You are one of my favorite artists on this site. Try to remember that because I believe in you. I believe you will heal from this. I also think it's not the end of things for you. It could wind up being a good thing. I know that doesn't sound plausible right now, but trust me when I say I've dealt with very similar things in my 30 years of being an artist, and not just once. Many, many times. Sometimes people aren't who they seem. It could be that. It could be that you said something that persuaded them to turn the other way, but this is not in your control. We can only control so much and learn from the weird little things that come about. Please don't fret it.
